Post: How To Get a Girl/Crush to Like/Notice You
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04-16-2012, 03:49 AM
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Chaz
Tremble Underfoot
How to get your crush to like/notice you!
DISCLAIMER: No this is not a sure-fire or guaranteed way to get a girl to fall in love with you,
or to even like you. However, this will be the first step for you to take to get her to at least
notice you. And then from there, you can work to get her to take interest in you.
What's the one thing we all want in this life? A person to call our own, to hold when were sad and happy and to just spend time
with. Everyone wants a relationship. As I said before, this "guide" isn't going to land you the chick you want on the first try. But,
you can follow these helpful tips to show her that you exist.
*NOTE: I don't condone treating women bad. Meaning, if you think things like cheating, sleeping around, not having respect
for women, etc, are okay...then this thread isn't for you. A good woman deserves a good man, so you'll learn how to be a gentleman.
Also, this thread isn't for getting you laid. So don't come here looking to use these tips to get in a girls pants. That takes time if you
want a meaningful relationship. *
I'll be discussing multiple things in this thread that should help those out who like a girl (or even a guy if you're in to that) and
at least want a shot at her. I'll touch on the following subjects: Communication, Mentality, Appearance, and Miscellaneous things.
CBA to do a multipage, so forgive the organization. So lets get started
Mentality
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Okay, I would like to start with mentality, because this is key to taking your first steps to success.
-Confidence-
As the old cliche goes, girls do indeed like guys who are confident. Be that guy who has pride, and isn't afraid to show it.
But don't be cocky. Girls hate arrogance. Girls also want a guy who can think for himself, and can not second guess them-
selves. Its okay to be shy when talking a girl. Especially one that you might like. Hell, some girls even find shyness a nice
quality. However, don't be afraid to exert some pride and confidence when speaking to a girl. This topic falls under
communication as well, so I'll go into more detail when I get there.
-Thought Process-
A big part of finding the right girl, is to know what girl to go after. What I mean by this, don't be afraid to go after a woman.
But, don't shoot for one out of your league. Sometimes you just got to know which goals are too high. I know I said
be confident, but if you feel you're a 2, then don't shoot for a 10. Maybe you have the right personality for a high
caliber woman though? You won't know unless you make an attempt. So in short, shoot for any girl you want, but
be wary of rejection if you're shooting too high. Also, if you get rejected, its no big deal. It just means that it isn't meant to be.
-Women Are Better Than You Think-
Don't wake up and think a girl is just a girl. They have feelings, and emotions, and they like to be nurtured, pampered, etc.
Women are very unique and each one is special. That is the type of mentality you need to have when you speak to a girl.
Focus solely on her, and think only about her. They like that feeling of knowing that they mean something to someone.
Yes, the world is full of "sluts/whores" and what have you that are easy, but don't associate yourself with them. Respect yourself
first and go for a respectable woman. Also, treat every girl you try to spark a relationship with how you would treat your mother.
Appearance
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Here I'll discuss multiple things from hygiene, your look, and general appearance.
-Hygiene-
Hygiene is one of the most important things I can discuss in here. The main reason? Because girls won't like you if
stink. Plain and simple. Please, for the love of God, brush your teeth and put on deodorant. Its the least you could do.
Get a good smelling body wash like Old Spice or Axe and use a regular deodorant. You don't need a crazy smelling deodorant
because most of the time they don't work or smell bad a couple hours after you put it on. Also, if you perspire easily, I recommend
looking into Drysol. I haven't used it in a while, but it worked really well when I did and its supposed to stop perspiration.
-Look Good, Feel Good-
Its true. Girls like guys who look good. Now just because you don't have the same level of sexiness as Outsider doesn't mean you
can't have a girl too. Plain and simple, make an effort to go to the gym or workout. Do a lot of cardio if you want to lose weight,
and lift to gain muscle. You don't have to be the next Govnah of Caleefornya, but girls are attracted to guys who have at least a little
bit of muscle. If you can't make it to a place to workout because you don't have a vehicle, don't make excuses. Workout in your room.
Do some situps and pushups and try to gradually do more and more each day. You'd be surprised to know how much those two activities
will grant success in terms of working out. In short, if you look good and see progress, you'll feel better about yourself. This leads
to more confidence and you'll want to push yourself more and more when working out.
-Dress To Impress-
If you don't have any nice pairs of clothes, go to the store and buy some nice/casual shirts (Polo Tees and what not) and a new pair
of nice jeans. Don't get ones with rips in them. That's just too hipster. But then again, maybe that's what the girl you like is into.
Its okay to dress down sometimes and wear sweatpants and a loose t-shirt, but not always. Girls like a guy who looks presentable
and cleans up nice.
-Presentation-
If your bread is too overgrown, trim it up. If your hair is too long, get it cut. Clean and precise is the way too go. For the beard though,
if you're going for a rugged look, then trim it up as nicely as possible. However, girls prefer a smooth face to anything because it doesn't
irritate them when making out. Also, I would recommend to refrain from using AXE body spray. The concoction that is in those cans is too
strong and people put way too much on which is a big no-no. I know some girls might like the smell of AXE, but sometimes its just too strong.
I recommend trying out a cologne that is subtle, but still has enough potency to catch a girls attention. I personally use Michael Jordan cologne.
It smells good, is subtle, and actually very cheap. ($15) Girls tend to be very close and intimate, so if you smell better than average, its a plus.
Communication
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Communication is the most critical points within this thread and to women! Please pay attention!
Hygiene is one of the most important things I can discuss in here. The main reason? Because girls won't like you if
stink. Plain and simple. Please, for the love of God, brush your teeth and put on deodorant. Its the least you could do.
Get a good smelling body wash like Old Spice or Axe and use a regular deodorant. You don't need a crazy smelling deodorant
because most of the time they don't work or smell bad a couple hours after you put it on. Also, if you perspire easily, I recommend
looking into Drysol. I haven't used it in a while, but it worked really well when I did and its supposed to stop perspiration.
-Look Good, Feel Good-
Its true. Girls like guys who look good. Now just because you don't have the same level of sexiness as Outsider doesn't mean you
can't have a girl too. Plain and simple, make an effort to go to the gym or workout. Do a lot of cardio if you want to lose weight,
and lift to gain muscle. You don't have to be the next Govnah of Caleefornya, but girls are attracted to guys who have at least a little
bit of muscle. If you can't make it to a place to workout because you don't have a vehicle, don't make excuses. Workout in your room.
Do some situps and pushups and try to gradually do more and more each day. You'd be surprised to know how much those two activities
will grant success in terms of working out. In short, if you look good and see progress, you'll feel better about yourself. This leads
to more confidence and you'll want to push yourself more and more when working out.
-Dress To Impress-
If you don't have any nice pairs of clothes, go to the store and buy some nice/casual shirts (Polo Tees and what not) and a new pair
of nice jeans. Don't get ones with rips in them. That's just too hipster. But then again, maybe that's what the girl you like is into.
Its okay to dress down sometimes and wear sweatpants and a loose t-shirt, but not always. Girls like a guy who looks presentable
and cleans up nice.
-Presentation-
If your bread is too overgrown, trim it up. If your hair is too long, get it cut. Clean and precise is the way too go. For the beard though,
if you're going for a rugged look, then trim it up as nicely as possible. However, girls prefer a smooth face to anything because it doesn't
irritate them when making out. Also, I would recommend to refrain from using AXE body spray. The concoction that is in those cans is too
strong and people put way too much on which is a big no-no. I know some girls might like the smell of AXE, but sometimes its just too strong.
I recommend trying out a cologne that is subtle, but still has enough potency to catch a girls attention. I personally use Michael Jordan cologne.
It smells good, is subtle, and actually very cheap. ($15) Girls tend to be very close and intimate, so if you smell better than average, its a plus.
Communication
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Communication is the most critical points within this thread and to women! Please pay attention!
-Confidence Continued-
Confidence is a really important aspect of communication to women when talking to them. Don't be afraid to start up
a conversation with a girl. They like guys who take initiative and aren't afraid to make the first move. If you find yourself
in a rut and drawing blanks when talking to her, ask her about herself. I'll cover this a little bit more in the topic below.
Don't be shy, ooze confidence, and you'll be golden.
-What To Talk About-
Confidence is key, but don't rush into a conversation without knowing what to talk about. If you can't think of anything,
talk about whatever current thing she is doing. "I see you're really into (insert topic/whatever shes doing here)."
All you need is an icebreaker, and you already past the hard part. Pay attention to her when she's talking, and look in her
Confidence is a really important aspect of communication to women when talking to them. Don't be afraid to start up
a conversation with a girl. They like guys who take initiative and aren't afraid to make the first move. If you find yourself
in a rut and drawing blanks when talking to her, ask her about herself. I'll cover this a little bit more in the topic below.
Don't be shy, ooze confidence, and you'll be golden.
-What To Talk About-
Confidence is key, but don't rush into a conversation without knowing what to talk about. If you can't think of anything,
talk about whatever current thing she is doing. "I see you're really into (insert topic/whatever shes doing here)."
All you need is an icebreaker, and you already past the hard part. Pay attention to her when she's talking, and look in her
eyes. Girls enjoy that type of intimacy and connection.During your conversation, you two might stray off and start talking about
one another and your interests. If this happens, this is good. However, keep in mind that girls like to talk. And they like to talk
about themselves. But they DON'T like to talk about themselves forever. Don't overwhelm her with facts about you though.
Try to balance it out and try to listen and speak equally. Communication is a big part about a relationship, so always try to work
on it whenever you can.
-Compliments-
I can't stress it enough, but girls will melt at compliments. When you're talking to a girl, interrupt her and say something meaningful
like, "You smell really good today" or, "Your hair looks really nice." Girls love compliments, and they'll always accept them as long
as they're not over the line and are meaningful. Compliments can even be a great icebreaker if you have trouble finding something
to talk about. If you ever want a girl to notice your generosity and caring, compliments are a great way to do so.
-How To Talk-
Smile, smile, smile, and smile. Women want to see your smile. There's no other explanation for it, but simply put, girls enjoy seeing
a guy smile because its their way of knowing if a guy is interested in her and it shows them what you're like when you're happy. Also, be
a little Italian, and talk with your hands. Show emotion when you speak!! If you're telling a story about something that made you angry,
show the emotion for it. If something made you happy, show her that it made you happy. Like I said before, look her in the eyes too when you
talk. If you don't make that connection with her, she'll lose interest quickly because she'll feel that the topic you're discussing isn't important
to you. And a tip, if you find yourself not interested in the topic, just look into her eyes and nod politely at appropriate times. Just do this until
you feel comfortable in changing the topic. It'll prevent you from seeming like a douche and also still being polite.
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So, this is the end of the guide. I know this isn't a thorough guide, and you might not even
find this useful, but hopefully you can learn to be a little more gentlemanly if you have a desire to.
Also, I am not a licensed relationship expert by any means, but I'm in a very strong relationship with a girl that has lasted over 18 months.
I'm not self proclaiming that I'm a perfect boyfriend, but I know that these things she enjoys and appreciates. Hopefully if you're looking for
someone yourself, you'll utilize some of these things.
Thanks for reading!
Chaz
about themselves. But they DON'T like to talk about themselves forever. Don't overwhelm her with facts about you though.
Try to balance it out and try to listen and speak equally. Communication is a big part about a relationship, so always try to work
on it whenever you can.
-Compliments-
I can't stress it enough, but girls will melt at compliments. When you're talking to a girl, interrupt her and say something meaningful
like, "You smell really good today" or, "Your hair looks really nice." Girls love compliments, and they'll always accept them as long
as they're not over the line and are meaningful. Compliments can even be a great icebreaker if you have trouble finding something
to talk about. If you ever want a girl to notice your generosity and caring, compliments are a great way to do so.
-How To Talk-
Smile, smile, smile, and smile. Women want to see your smile. There's no other explanation for it, but simply put, girls enjoy seeing
a guy smile because its their way of knowing if a guy is interested in her and it shows them what you're like when you're happy. Also, be
a little Italian, and talk with your hands. Show emotion when you speak!! If you're telling a story about something that made you angry,
show the emotion for it. If something made you happy, show her that it made you happy. Like I said before, look her in the eyes too when you
talk. If you don't make that connection with her, she'll lose interest quickly because she'll feel that the topic you're discussing isn't important
to you. And a tip, if you find yourself not interested in the topic, just look into her eyes and nod politely at appropriate times. Just do this until
you feel comfortable in changing the topic. It'll prevent you from seeming like a douche and also still being polite.
You must login or register to view this content.
So, this is the end of the guide. I know this isn't a thorough guide, and you might not even
find this useful, but hopefully you can learn to be a little more gentlemanly if you have a desire to.
Also, I am not a licensed relationship expert by any means, but I'm in a very strong relationship with a girl that has lasted over 18 months.
I'm not self proclaiming that I'm a perfect boyfriend, but I know that these things she enjoys and appreciates. Hopefully if you're looking for
someone yourself, you'll utilize some of these things.
Thanks for reading!
Chaz
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04-16-2012, 04:32 AM
#5
Pichu
PICHU.
PICHU.
I'm going to college in about 4-5 months, High School is over for me within 2 months.
I have never kissed a girl, slept with a girl, done anything with a girl. I'm seen as nice, smart, friendly and geeky (Geeky in a good way though). I have a weird sense of humor but it works for me, I make a lot of people laugh and the laugh isn't directed towards me but conversation.
Simply, all I have to do is man up and just ask. Because I failed to ask a girl who I deeply like, the chatting between us slowly faded and now we don't talk much. When we do, there is shyness but it seems like an awkward type of shyness.
I have never kissed a girl, slept with a girl, done anything with a girl. I'm seen as nice, smart, friendly and geeky (Geeky in a good way though). I have a weird sense of humor but it works for me, I make a lot of people laugh and the laugh isn't directed towards me but conversation.
Simply, all I have to do is man up and just ask. Because I failed to ask a girl who I deeply like, the chatting between us slowly faded and now we don't talk much. When we do, there is shyness but it seems like an awkward type of shyness.
04-16-2012, 04:37 AM
#6
Chaz
Tremble Underfoot
Originally posted by Sublimity
I'm going to college in about 4-5 months, High School is over for me within 2 months.
I have never kissed a girl, slept with a girl, done anything with a girl. I'm seen as nice, smart, friendly and geeky (Geeky in a good way though). I have a weird sense of humor but it works for me, I make a lot of people laugh and the laugh isn't directed towards me but conversation.
Simply, all I have to do is man up and just ask. Because I failed to ask a girl who I deeply like, the chatting between us slowly faded and now we don't talk much. When we do, there is shyness but it seems like an awkward type of shyness.
I have never kissed a girl, slept with a girl, done anything with a girl. I'm seen as nice, smart, friendly and geeky (Geeky in a good way though). I have a weird sense of humor but it works for me, I make a lot of people laugh and the laugh isn't directed towards me but conversation.
Simply, all I have to do is man up and just ask. Because I failed to ask a girl who I deeply like, the chatting between us slowly faded and now we don't talk much. When we do, there is shyness but it seems like an awkward type of shyness.
The worst thing you can ever do when you like someone is to not try. Making that attempt is the hardest thing
to do, but it will ultimately lead to either a let down, or a success. The thing is, you'll never know until you try.
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04-16-2012, 04:41 AM
#7
Hitman
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Originally posted by Sublimity
I'm going to college in about 4-5 months, High School is over for me within 2 months.
I have never kissed a girl, slept with a girl, done anything with a girl. I'm seen as nice, smart, friendly and geeky (Geeky in a good way though). I have a weird sense of humor but it works for me, I make a lot of people laugh and the laugh isn't directed towards me but conversation.
Simply, all I have to do is man up and just ask. Because I failed to ask a girl who I deeply like, the chatting between us slowly faded and now we don't talk much. When we do, there is shyness but it seems like an awkward type of shyness.
I have never kissed a girl, slept with a girl, done anything with a girl. I'm seen as nice, smart, friendly and geeky (Geeky in a good way though). I have a weird sense of humor but it works for me, I make a lot of people laugh and the laugh isn't directed towards me but conversation.
Simply, all I have to do is man up and just ask. Because I failed to ask a girl who I deeply like, the chatting between us slowly faded and now we don't talk much. When we do, there is shyness but it seems like an awkward type of shyness.
Ask her out on a date... What have you got to lose?
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